Our second wedding anniversary is just a few days away, and I can’t believe how quickly time has passed us by!
I remember celebrating our first wedding anniversary just like it was yesterday — talking about all the things that had happened in the past year, and discussing what we thought might come in the next…
Like children, for instance.
Which, if you know us, you know that it’s still just the two of us.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how I can personally be a witness of being open to life when I don’t have children… yet.
I’ve struggled with the notion of whether I’m any less than the women – the mothers – who have been welcoming new life into their families since the day they were married.
I’ve wondered where I can fit in, in the pro-life movement, as a wife — but not (yet) a mom?
I have to admit that I’ve fallen into the trap of thinking that having children early in our marriage, and often, would be the only testimonial we could offer about the blessings of being open to life, to children, and to God being present in our marriage.
I now know that’s one way, but it’s not the only way.
Although it has taken some time & discernment, I’m growing more confident each day that God is using our family — our two-person family — in ways that perhaps we didn’t think of ourselves, in ways which we didn’t plan.
With this in mind, one of my favorite lines from the Catechism has been on my heart lately.
“The fundamental task of marriage and family is to be at the service of life.”
Like I said, I’ve struggled, asking myself, can I do that as a married woman without children?
The more I pray & think about this, the louder & more persistent this answer has become:
Between my husband, our family, our friends, especially those who have children — there is no shortage of people I can serve. Even the people, the strangers, I may come in contact with everyday — I can serve them, too.
Children may not be the fruit of our marriage right now, but we can still radiate the fruitfulness of charity, hospitality and sacrifice.
Considering the amount of time I have, the resources and – quite frankly, a whole lot of myself to give — I have been so happy to discover the ways I can give – the ways I am called to give.
I’ve asked that God would put opportunities in my path that would allow me to, sort of, make up for the fact that we don’t have children right now… And I’ve learned that there’s nothing to make up for. There’s just plenty more to give right now, and in a different direction.