The cross of infertility, and how we can help

5959483288_de06be85cf_zThis was originally posted during National infertility Awareness Week.

1 in 8 couples will suffer with infertility. I’m betting that you know someone in your close circle of friends or family that are suffering with it right now. It’s often a silent cross couples carry, but even so, I believe as Catholics that no one is meant to carry their cross alone.

So how can you support your family and friends that are suffering with infertility? Or, on the other hand, if you and your husband are suffering, how can you let your loved ones know how they can help? Amanda Teixeira of True Good and Beautiful has you covered HERE.

To learn the basics about infertility, check out this page.

To know what options there are for couples to heal and conceive, which are in alignment with Church teaching, read this post. 

Some topics of conversation can be more sensitive when you’re suffering with infertility, and some things people say can be more painful than others. Here’s what not to say to a couple suffering with infertility

What about your friends and family who just began suffering with infertility and feel abandoned by the Church? Jenny Uebbing of Mama Needs Coffee (don’t we all?!) can shed some light on how the Church cares deeply for infertile couples HERE, and the advances the Church is making to help couples become parents.

Suffering with any cross, infertility included, can be hard to communicate. What are the right words to explain how you feel to someone who has never dealt with that same situation? Molly from Molly Makes Do has a great analogy HERE.

Additionally, here’s a look at what it’s like to be open to life, without the fruit of children, in marriage, by Stephanie at Blessed to Be.

Please join me in praying for all couples suffering with infertility in any manner!

And for a few more resources…

Endometriosis, Infertility and the Church

How NaProTECHNOLOGY Doctors Are Different

“We said ‘Yes,’ Too” 

Why I Don’t — and Won’t — Use Contraception

A Story of Healing through NaProTECHNOLOGY, by Katie Sciba over at The Catholic Wife 

photo credit: John Hope Photography

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  • Thank you for this great resources post, Annie! I never thought subfertility/infertility would be a cross for me…even while so many friends and family dealt with it. It’s so hard to talk about it, or know how to correct people or respond to people who think we just “really good at NFP” or are just “waiting for the right time for your next one.” Yep, have gotten both of those. 😉
    Thanks so much for putting this together.;)

    • catholicwifecatholiclife

      I’m so sorry you’re suffering, Erin! I’ll pray for your family!

  • So many resources! Thank you so much. I know so many women who suffer in silence under the weight of this cross.

    • catholicwifecatholiclife

      I’m glad I could help! 🙂

  • Amy Elizabeth

    Sharing with “The Rose Garden” . . . couples waiting to adopt or that have adopted. Most of us know about infertility far to well.

  • Birgit Atherton Jones

    What a wonderful, informative post. I wish it had been around when my sister and her husband lived through this painful time. Sharing on our local Gospel of Life page. God bless!

  • Jennifer

    Different good things happen to different people, and the elevation of bearing children above all else seems crazy. And whilst we can’t necessarily change our emotions about the issue, we can recognize that they are completely self-centered. “Self-centered” doesn’t mean evil, horrible and egotistical, it just means not focused on the child, but on our own desire for a child. Nobody has a ‘right’ to have a child, just because we want one. I used surrogacy service in Ukraine. It was 3 years ago but I’m sure that now the service is on the same level. We chose Ukraine among the great number of countries which deal with surrogacy. I wanted to be a mother since high school. Of course I was too young. But such thoughts have never left me. When I met my husband I think it was love from the first sign. But appears he can’t have a baby. I have never regret that we went through such experience. Our baby is much alike me. He is growing in loving and carrying atmosphere. So I think it is the most important.