How often do you hear that?
Probably not as often as you need to…
Whether you’re dealing with anxieties, going through a hard time in your marriage, struggling with your kids, struggling to get pregnant, or dealing with financial worries, or job worries, or you’re suffering from a chronic illness or taking care of someone who is…
Maybe you need to hear that you’re doing a good job.
Because I know when I hear it, it feels like the best thing I can hear.
And Catherine Richardson apparently knows exactly how I feel, because her blog post on it is absolutely perfectly said.
She writes, “We’ve all got something. It doesn’t even have to be illness or disability. We all have things in our lives that are hard…
“Sometimes we get defeated. Sometimes we’re angry at our circumstances and feel sorry for ourselves. Sometimes we compare ourselves to others and get jealous of those who appear to have it easier. And that’s all OK, because other times our spirits triumph. Other times, we choose to laugh instead of cry and choose to be grateful for what we do have instead of feeling bitter about what we’ve lost. Other times, we reach out and take everything we’ve learned through our struggles to help someone else face their own.
“We don’t have it all together all the time. We’re not supposed to. But we do what we can. We do our best.”
We can’t do it all — not every day, and sometimes we can’t do very much at all… But we don’t have to.
It’s okay to just do what you can do at any given time during any given day.
Just do what you can, and don’t feel guilty about the things that you can’t do. That guilt can rob you of any joy that you had any chance of experiencing that day.
Give yourself some grace, give the people around you a chance to give you some grace.
And give God the chance to give you some grace & mercy too.
Many of you know I’ve been dealing with a chronic illness for a while now — often dealing with stomach issues & pain. It’s hard for me to talk about it; it’s disappointing to me to not feel as well as possible. It’s disappointing to me that I can’t be 100% all the time. It often feels like I’m letting the people around me down by not feeling well around them, and I really don’t like that…
And even though I’ve been feeling much better in general lately, I still have some bad days.
And when I do, I try a lot, and I try hard, to be upbeat about it or to be optimistic about it all. I guess I try to be hopeful, and I try to remember that God is with me in each of those moments.
That doesn’t mean I ignore my pain and don’t think twice about it. Sometimes I do give it the time of day, and I feel it. I give myself the grace to feel it, to be a little upset to feel it, and then I give myself the grace to accept the graces of other people — their understanding, their empathy, their help even.
A few months ago, one of my brothers-in-law told me that even when he knew I wasn’t feeling well, he was impressed with my attitude about it all.
And his comment basically sounded to me like, “You’re doing a good job.”
And I needed to hear that.
And I thought that maybe you needed to hear that too.
Wherever you are and whatever you’re doing, you’re doing a good job.
Hang in there.