How to grow in Beauty, How we are ALL Mothers – in Some Way, and How our Hearts Need to Know Our Maker {and way more!}

Here are my favorite reads of the week, my take on ’em, and a few other finds that I thought you would like! AND, a few photos from our recent trip to EWTN’s studios to sit down with Johnette Benkovic of “Women of Grace” — and a little bit about her latest book. So grab a cup of coffee — or tea, & enjoy!

“We Are All Mothers in Some Way”

by Bobbi Roi, written over at Blessed is She

“God needs motherly hearts to embrace His children that need it most. It does not matter if those hearts belong to teenagers, single women, wives without kids, moms with many kids, grandmas, religious, or whatever the case may be. What matters is that a spiritual mother’s heart is ready to kneel and pray for the souls God brings to mind. She is ready to offer up the drudgery of her school studies or the difficult tasks at her work place or the exhausting chores of her busy household. She is open to the Holy Spirit to say the right words or just give a comforting hug to someone that needs it. These are the ways you, as a woman of God, can be fruitful and multiply. We are on a mission to help God’s children come back to His Kingdom and nurture them along the journey.”

My take: One of my best friends e-mailed this to me and said, “This made me think of you,” to which I cried happy tears because it was so thoughtful of her and because it suggested — and as is true — that even without having children, that I can be fruitful & multiply. 🙂 Can you think of a woman in your life who might like to hear this message too? Go ahead & share it with her!

“Six Speedbumps that Can Wreck a Marriage”
by Dave Willis, written over at Patheos

Stop making your spouse wonder how much they mean to you. Tell your spouse how crazy you are about them. Tell them often. Tell them more than anyone else ever would. Be your spouse’s biggest admirer. And don’t just say it, but also back it up with the way you treat them courteously and respectfully. Pursue your spouse emotionally and romantically, in ways they will respond to. Stop waiting for your spouse to beg you to help around the house or with the kids. Be mindful and intentional to look for ways to help around the house or with the kids. Don’t wait for your spouse to beg you to help more. If they do express frustration in this area, ask what items you can take off their to do list, and how you can do more so they can take a needed break. You might be surprised at how much a little more effort means to them. Think about it: if you could make them happier by helping out more, wouldn’t you want to try?”

My take: Here’s some seriously good marriage advice. It sort of goes along with the idea of anticipating what your spouse needs before they really need it. We have to tend to our marriages for them to grow; intentionally, sincerely, and effortfully. It takes work, yes, but it’s the best work of our lives aside from doing the very same for our relationship with the Lord.

Growing in Beauty – A Calling to All Mothers
by Kirby Hoberg, written over at The Zelie Group

“Too often I hear moms talk about living life in survival mode.  They talk about how long it’s been since they showered like it’s an Olympic event. They confess that they have not had a proper meal in weeks, or that they have had sleeping hours in the single digits over the course of four days. Then they tell me how long it has been like this and I want to cry with them.

“In survival mode, you are not valuing yourself as the beautiful, unique soul that you are, but as a utility that is running on backup generators. In survival mode, you are so focused on just getting through the day that you start to run out of self to give. This extreme neglect of self is not just terrible for your own mental and physical health, it is an insult to God.

“Momma, you were created a never-before-seen human being full of beauty and talents, and you give an irreplaceable contribution to the world. That means we all have an obligation to honor and care for our bodies and minds as the precious gifts they are. To do less is an insult to the God who gave us these precious gifts.”

My take: I absolutely loved this piece by Kirby and it’s really written for every woman, not just mamas. We all need Beauty in our lives, and we have to recognize that God also created Beauty within us. We have to take care of ourselves. It’s not just for us; but for everyone else in our lives as well, because when we’re doing that we are better able to let God shine through us. And that’s the sort of Beauty that our friends & family need to see.

“Every Christian Needs To See What Kevin Did on “This is Us”
by Becky Thompson, over at her site, Becky Thompson

“We are all on some sort of journey to figure out who we really are, what we really want, what we want to be known for… And so much of it is a chasing after the wind. But, you guys, our greatest and purest identity will always be found in who our Father is… as sons… as daughters… as children of God. Because when we remember what we saw our Father do, we can understand how to live it out as well.”

My take: I’ve really been enjoying the show, “This is Us.” Have you seen it yet? It sort of hits the same strings as “Parenthood” did… but they’re still pretty different. In the latest episode of “This is Us,” Kevin’s understanding of who he was, as the son of his father, was a pivotal moment of change for him: of growth, of action, of compassion. It was just so beautiful. And the same is true for us like Becky wrote; when we understand where our identity truly comes from, we can know better how to live our lives. Our identity is not simply in what we do on a daily basis, but who we are: daughters of the King.


Our Trip to EWTN!


On another note, my husband & I were so honored to meet Johnette Benkovic earlier this week and to sit down with her to film five episodes of her show, “Women of Grace” that airs on EWTN. We loved meeting her and speaking with her about our prayer ministry, Pray More Novenas. We don’t know when the shows will air but we will keep you updated! 🙂

Weekly Wish List:

This week, Johnette Benkovic’s most recent book, “Graceful Living: Meditations to Help You Grow Closer to God Day by Day” is on my weekly wish list. 

Here’s a brief description of the book: “Each day brings you a delicate sample of the truth of the Catholic faith, as well as practical and incisive questions to stimulate prayer and reflection that have been written by Johnnette Benkovic, host of EWTN’s Women of Grace. Johnnette has collected these spiritual gems over the course of many years and has brought them together for the first time in this book for daily meditation. These reflections will challenge you to go deeper in your prayer and self-examination, bringing to light aspects of each quotation that might be missed at first glance. Moreover, they will help you start your day by lifting your heart, soul, and mind to God.”

My take: I don’t think I could sing higher praises for Johnette. She was kind, insightful, and so wise. I can’t wait to get my hands on a copy of her book because I know I can learn A LOT from her.

Another thing that would be on my wishlist if I didn’t actually buy it is this beauty 😉


I picked it up at the EWTN gift shop but you can also buy it here. I was drawn to it the second I saw it — I thought it was just beautiful. And get this: the image is called the Virgin of Hope. <3

Lastly, if you need a good laugh 😉

The Choice We Have: Choosing God’s Love Today

When I was at a women’s retreat over the weekend, one of the speakers asked us to reflect on a few questions and two of them were:

“Do I truly believe that God loves me?”
 
and

“Do I truly believe that God thinks I’m beautiful?”

The answer for me was: some days, yes, other days, no.

I know (I know) that we’re made in the image & likeness of God — fearfully and wonderfully made.

But I don’t always believe this truth the way I wish I did…

The woman speaking went on to explain how we could answer those questions with better certainty, and she said it started with getting to know God better.

Once we came to know who He is, she said, we would be able to know ourselves better… and then we would also know our worth, our value — essentially, how He see us.

And then — then — we would be able to answers those questions with a resounding, “yes.”

“Yes, I truly believe God loves me. Yes, I truly believe He thinks I’m beautiful.”

I looked around the room and I could tell I wasn’t the only one hearing these questions and feeling doubtful.

It seemed like most of these women could use the reminder that they’re known by our creator — that they are seen by Him, and most especially, that they are Loved by Him.

Maybe all the times that we’re not seen by those around us — not seen for the work we’re doing, for the thought we put into everything we do, and for the effort and sheer love we pour out into our daily to-do list… maybe all of those times that we’re not seen — by our family, those closest to us — chips away at our understanding of how God sees us.

It’s easy to fall into a trap of thinking we understand who God is because we understand how those around us love us…

But the people in our lives love us so imperfectly sometimes.

Yes, even our husbands, our children, our parents, even — their love is imperfect. And although it can and does often point us to our Father’s love and identity (as it should — it’s a part of Him), we have to remember it is just the tip of the iceberg. It’s something that is multiplied beyond our understanding.

And God sees everything.

He sees the effort we put into our daily tasks, and the thought behind our actions, and the love behind our sacrifices.
 
He sees the small things like our doing the dishes, and creating a grocery list while planning our meals for the week.
 
He sees how we put ourselves into these tasks for our families.
 
He sees how we do something for our husbands before we might do something for ourselves… even when our husbands don’t see that.

He sees the quiet dying to ourselves as we rise each morning to start over again with whatever is in front of us each day.

And He hears our prayers — those words we mumble as we get out of bed, and the words we lift up when we’re running errands and having a bad day, and the words we don’t even have — He even hears those…

God sees us and hears us. He knows us. And He loves us.

He IS love.

But if we’re really to believe that, we have to spend a little more time with Him. It’s another sacrifice to make just like the other ones I mentioned above, but it’s a small one with a big impact.

It’s something that can help us to see God, to hear Him, and to know and love Him the way that He does for us…

It’s something that we can do to better answer those questions: “Do I truly believe that God loves me?” and “Do I truly believe that God thinks I’m beautiful?”

So I’ve been trying to get to know God a little better, and I loved this description of Him from Saint John of Kronstadt. He said, “What is the name of our God? Love, Mercy, Compassion, Bountifulness. When you pray, contemplate with the eyes of your heart Love and Mercy standing before you — the Lover of men listening to you.”

Wow. That really helps me to have a better image of who our Lord is when I’m speaking to Him…It’s such a good reminder that I could use more often; to know and remember that He isn’t someone who looks upon me with harsh eyes or judgement or condemnation, but someone who looks at me with eyes of mercy, compassion and love.

And boy do I need that…

I also need to be better at believing this, at choosing to believe it.

I’ll finish with this: A piece of marriage advice I’ve heard time and time again is that love is a choice — that we have to choose to love everyday in our marriages.
 
It’s the same way with our trust and our love for God. We have to choose it everyday. We have to choose to believe it, to live it, and to remember it — even when we’re not feeling it.

“You have to trust the place that is solid, the place where you can say yes to God’s love even when you do not feel it. Right now you feel nothing except emptiness and the lack of strength to choose. But keep saying, “God loves me, and God’s love is enough.” You have to choose the solid place over and over again and return to it after every failure.” (Henri Nouwen, “The Inner Voice of Love”)

I hope you choose God’s love for you today — choose to believe it, trust it, and allow it to wash over you today when you need it most.

A Prayer for the New Year

I’m praying that as we make our way into a new year that God will bless you and give you the strength to endure what you must — to carry your cross, the clarity & confidence to seek and live out His will for your life, and the joy and peace that only He can give you. And most of all, I pray that He makes known His love for you — His infinite, all-encompassing love for you.

 

Advent: A Season of (much-needed) Hope

Teenage girl sitting at a window and holding a cup of coffee on a cold autumn day

It’s officially Advent! This is one of my favorite Liturgical seasons — a season of HOPE and a season of preparation.

St. John Paul II said Advent is synonymous with hope. But it’s not, “the vain waiting for a faceless God.” Rather, it’s a, “concrete and certain trust in the return of Him who has already visited us.”

I’m good at the hope part (most of the time), but the preparation part is something I haven’t done too well in the past… That’s one of the things I intentionally wanted to work on this Advent.

And as you might have noticed, it’s been a little quiet on the blog here lately and that’s because I’ve been working on a special project for Advent: the Pray More Advent Retreat.

The Pray More Retreat is an online retreat for the season of Advent that focuses on slowing down & preparing to receive Jesus at Christmas.

Because Jesus Christ comes at Christmas.

He comes into our world as a man — as a baby, to share in our humanity. And this changes everything.

Everything!

When Jesus comes, the darkness turns into light. And this is something we are all in deep need of; light — light and hope.

But a big problem of our society is that we’ve placed our hope in many other things over the years; in other people, in our culture, in our jobs, security, health, home, etc.

And those things have let us down. They haven’t fulfilled us. They haven’t brought us true happiness. Or peace.

Jesus Christ is the only one who can bring us those things — and more.

The way I see it, that can really only happen if our hearts and minds are oriented towards Him, prepared for Him — purified for Him. Certainly, God works past our limitations. But I think He might be able to work even greater in our lives when we do some of the work, too, and invite Him in.

That’s what the Pray More Advent Retreat is all about: quieting down this Advent season, not getting lost in the hustle & bustle of the Christmas season before it’s actually Christmas, and truly preparing our hearts to receive the Lord when He comes this Christmas.

The retreat is all online and it’s all self-paced.

It includes 20 different videos — some are 10 minutes long, others are 20 minutes long, and each of those talks come with a short study guide (one of my favorite parts of the retreat), a transcript of the talk (in case you prefer to read it) and an audio download so that you can listen to the presentation wherever you are — even when you’re on the go.

We wanted to make the retreat as accessible as possible — so you can be a part of it anywhere and at anytime this Advent — because we know that everyone is just so busy.

adventretreatHere are some of the topics the retreat covers:

+ Discovering the Joy in Advent
+ Six Ways to Keep Your Advent Season Holy
+ The Lifelong Journey of Holiness
+ St. John Paul II and the Holy Eucharist
+ How St. Therese of Lisieux Teaches us to Live Simply with Great Love
+ What the “Our Father” Teaches Us About Prayer
+ St. Ignatius of Loyola’s Process of Reflecting on the Gospels
+ Living as a Redeemed People in a Broken World
+ Isaiah, the Prophet of Christmas
+ “Was it Not Necessary?” (Jesus’s Suffering, and Ours)
+ Turning to Mary During Advent

You can see the rest of the topics of each of the talks here:

The Pray More Retreat!

That’s also where you can sign up 🙂

As Pope Francis said, Advent is a journey towards Bethlehem.

“May we let ourselves be drawn by the light of God made man.”

Staying in the Present, Doable Acts of Mercy, How to Really Put Big Love into Small Things {and more!}

Two friends relaxing and drinking coffee .Coffee break.Coffee to go.Here are my favorite reads of the week, my take on ’em, and a few other finds that I thought you would like! Grab a cup of coffee — or tea, & enjoy!

“10 Songs That Keep Me Present”

by Amanda over at Erring on the Side of Love

My take: Music is one of my love languages, and I love the list she put together of songs that keep her in the present moment — and oh, isn’t that something we all can/must be better at doing? God is in the present moment, that’s why it’s important we stay here too. And as far as the future? He’s there too, and that’s why ya don’t need to worry about it! 😉 My two favorites from Amanda’s list are, “Good to me,” and, “I Shall Not Want,” by Audrey Assad. Just. So. Good. Go take a listen!

“How do you put big love into small things?”

by Erin over at Humble Handmaid:

My prayer that night in front of that sink full of dishes was that God would help me learn how to practically put “great love” into my duties as a wife and mother, particularly when I don’t feel very loving toward the task or the people I’m serving. I have a long way to go, trust me, but here are some thoughts from the past few weeks. Big love in small things is choosing not to snap angrily at a child who wakes you up early from a much-needed nap. Big love in small things is nursing the baby at the end of a couch full of clothes you haven’t had time to fold, and making yourself list (out loud) ten things you are thankful for instead of letting your thoughts slip into irritation or despair. Big love in small things is making sure you turn off all the lights, fans, and the washer and dryer before you leave the house, because it’s important to your husband (although it’s not quite as important to you, and although it’s a hassle sometimes!) Big love in small things is making red beans and rice every Monday because it’s your husband’s favorite dish and he grew up eating it every Monday night (although you’re not a big fan)…”

My take: Big love is hard, and painful, but that’s sort of what it’s meant to be, right? It’s meant to be sanctifying. And if our sanctification were so easy, there would be a lot more people walking on the path towards Heaven, and Jesus probably wouldn’t have had to die for us. But we gotta do what we gotta do. We’re called to put big love into small things and I know that might seem like an impossible task, but Erin’s tips seriously nail down how you can do it in your everyday life.

Read it here.

10 simple (totally doable!) acts of mercy to slip into your everyday

by Arleen Spencely over at For Her:

“Sometimes it feels like more people need mercy than we can provide—and exactly how to show mercy feels overwhelming or impossible, so we just … sink back into our everyday lives. But there are ways to be merciful that are small but still meaningful. With just a month left in the jubilee year, try squeezing these 10 simple acts into your everyday…”

My take: I love so much of what I’ve seen Arleen write. She’s inspired by the Holy Spirit, that’s for sure! Her first tip in this piece is to forgive yourself. Stop and let that sink in. It might hurt — looking at our sins, at our flaws, at our pasts, but — but — God can forgive us (He has, is, and will forgive us), and so you can too. And the good that can come when we extend mercy to ourselves? The sort of good that happens when we extend mercy to other people. We have to start with ourselves. Forge on, friends, and forgive yourselves! <3

Read it here.

Jose Sanchez del Rio: Hero for Christ the King

by Elias Rubio over at TFP Student Action:

“The guards made Jose walk ten blocks, barefoot and bleeding, along a rocky path to the cemetery were he would be buried. Along the way, the soldiers screamed blasphemies with satanic hatred, praising the godless government, trying to pressure the boy to deny his faith: “You better learn your lesson!” “We will kill you!” “What a proud and arrogant boy!” they said.

“Jose’s only response was: “Viva Cristo Rey!” and “Viva La Virgen de Guadalupe!”

“Already at the cemetery, Jose asked: “Where is my plot?” as he did not want any of the troops to touch him.  One of the soldiers suddenly swung his rifle around, breaking Jose’s jaw with the butt.   Without hesitation, the soldiers furiously stabbed him in the neck, chest and the back with knives. At every stab, Jose proclaimed the name of Christ the King at top of his lungs, “Viva Cristo Rey!”

“Jose was dying slowly.  But he still mustered enough energy to defy the soldiers, saying:  “You have done a lot to me, but God still allows me [to continue]!  But when I can no longer speak, if I wiggle my feet, that means, ‘Viva Cristo Rey and the Virgin of Guadalupe!'”

“A federal officer approached the dying and bleeding boy on the ground and asked in a sarcastic tone:  “What should we tell your father?”  Jose answered: “That we will see each other in Heaven! Viva Cristo Rey! and the Virgin of Guadalupe.”

My take: Every time I read about Saint Jose Sanchez del Rio, I react the same way I did the first time I heard his story: I just cry — like a baby, no less. This young boy died while proclaiming that Jesus Christ is King. He was not going to deny his faith or his King, not even to safe his life. No wonder he became a saint. I similarly wonder when his mom will become a saint (or if she already is one?), because let’s be honest: who do you think taught him these things? This inspires and challenges me when it comes to thinking about our future children. I imagine it might do the same for you 🙂 Jose had a beautiful faith and he defended it in numerous ways. Read his story. Talk about it with your family and children, or nieces & nephews.

Read it here.

Prayer of the Week:

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Weekly Wish List:

Here are a few things that caught my eye this week…

This Mother Teresa Apron that says, “If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one.”

My take: I love it. It’s a beautiful sentiment and especially hits close to home since I mostly cook just for two 🙂 The apron could also work as a Halloween Costume. Anyone else dressing up for All Saints Day too??? 🙂

Speaking of Mother Teresa, check out this cute Mother Teresa doll. This will be going in the back of my mind as a gift for friends’ & families’ babies.

Have a beautiful week!